This video is on a common dynamic in couples and in families.
Here are a few resources that can help with this dynamic:
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy For Dummies (don’t let the title turn you off, it’s great).
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Stop the Fight!: An Illustrated Guide for Couples
I recommend this series of videos on boundaries, empathy and listening to most of my clients