Communication skills and conflict resolution strategies.
I statements.
Parenting strategies.
Talking about sex.
Checking in about chores and who does what.
Coordinating schedules.
Clarifying expectations.
Bravely asking for what you want and need.
Those are some things in marriage counseling can help with.
Sometimes the biggest thing is feeling just a little softer and just a little safer with each other.
I see it when a couple stops talking about their spouse to me and they turn to them and look them gently in the eyes.
Or when they move toward the middle of the couch instead of hugging the edges.
Or when they really hear what’s been said and say, “I’m sorry.”
In those little moments how far you have to go and how much you have to forgive don’t seem so overwhelming.
And you can begin to trust, hope and heal.